Why Empowered Living Means So Much To Me

Gai Comans Why empowered living means so much to me
Have you ever thought that you were just meant to do something…

…and although you tried not to think about it, it wouldn’t stop invading your thoughts?

I was planning an extended trip to Florence and Europe, and before I left for my trip, I needed to resign from my long-term volunteer role with the Cancer Connect program. It was a conversation with Kath, my volunteer coordinator, which stayed with me and nagged at me for quite some time.

Kath and I had gotten to know each other pretty well during the five years I volunteered with the program, supporting and coaching ladies with breast cancer. Then, in the autumn of 2009, I was supporting 15 ladies at once and knew that I wouldn’t be able to support them while I was traveling.

I was dreading making the call to Kath to let her know that I needed to resign. Kath asked if I could take a leave of absence. “Kath, don’t you have another volunteer who can support the ladies?” I asked. “No, Gai. Don’t you remember 1 in 10, very few women survive your diagnosis?” replied Kath. “Kath, I need to find a different way to support more women” I concluded.

The conversation left me wondering. I knew that I wanted to provide a pathway for women after treatment to do more than merely survive. It sat there as that little voice in the back of my mind.

You fight through the trauma and then you realise that you made it, you are “alive”, you survived, and you’re grateful.

The next shock comes for some, when you realise that “being alive” and “living” are two very different things. Being alive is about existing, surviving. Living is a place where you feel whole and stop not making decisions “just to stay alive”. This hides thoughts and shows up in your language and behaviour.

The trouble is that most people don’t realise there is a difference, so they settle for “being alive”. When you can make the shift, the difference in your life is profound. The problem is that no one shows you how to do it. I had done it, and it was time to show you how to do it too.

A year later, I packed up my house and moved to Ubud in Bali for the year. I wanted to experience life where I had the space to feel; feel into a life that might be very different to the life I had lived and create the space. This series is a result of the my time in Florence and Ubud.

When I sat down to design this series, I thought about how important it was that cancer survivors had that pathway to step back into living from a place of empowerment, rather than fear.

As “Empowered Living” comes from taking action, this series needed to be informative, but more importantly, to focus on the “how to’s”, so that you can apply the juicy nuggets of wisdom in your life and get the change you are looking for.

I was really proud of the way the series unfolded, with each step building on the last. The really focused on teaching what to do, why it was important, and then how to do it simply and easily, step-by-step.

It was the type of series that I wanted to put together back in 2009. I hope that it touches your life as much as it has touched mine. It’s a limited time free video series you can register here.

If you were able to make the series, what touched you, what had the biggest impact on your life? Please let me know in the comments section below.



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Why Empowered Living Means So Much To Me — 2 Comments

  1. Gai,
    I’m a brain cancer survivor, not a breast cancer survivor, but what you’ve shared in your email and above has confirmed that we are of similar mind/philosophy regarding the difference between “surviving” and “living” fully. I have expanded my coaching practice to focus specifically on survivors who want to experience transformation to a flourishing life. I look forward to viewing the videos.

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